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Another Random Update

 

Last night, I had a dream that I saw a pic of myself with straightened hair.  It was very long and very thick and black too. Not that dusty brownish color that comes from sun damage which I usually have. Was weird because I never recall my hair looking like that. I do kind of wonder what my hair would look like straightened at this point but I will have to wait until the weather changes or move to New Mexico because it is really hot and humid in Atlanta right now and my hair frizzes up so, so easily.  Another reason I do not straighten my hair or get relaxers.  If I decide to straighten my hair which may not be until September or October, I will definitely post the picture to show you what it looks like. I feel so bad though.  I have not posted anything about hair in a while.  I have a post coming up on damage and I really need to make some style videos.

Last time I straightened my hair 1/25/09

 

Around the time I last straightened my hair

 

Look at me now (Aug 4, 2011)

Just keep in mind that the pic of me now is a braid-out, albeit  an accidental one because I only took out these braids I had in to show you what my natural hair looks like in comparison to 2009.  Back then in 2009, I was wearing a co-wash and go, like I did everyday, since I had no idea what braid out was nor did I desire a braid out but they really are a good thing.  You can use all the best hair products in the world but if you do not treat the hair properly through the styling and detangling techniques you use, the products are useless.  That is what I have learned.  I told you some great ways to detangle and I have hinted some good products and ingredients but the styling tutorials are long, long, long, long overdue.  I feel so bad. I will get to them, but I am really busy nowadays.  How about this:  I will wash my hair every Friday evening and style on Saturday so perhaps you can expect to see a styling video and pictorial ever Monday?  How is that?  I should ahve posted the Natural Hair in the workplace series but I have been trying to get myself in the work place.  Expect a lot Monday.

Add a comment August 4, 2011

My Mother: Amazing Woman, and more notes on Irrationality and Rationality

 

Actually wrote this yesterday and did not post it:

I told you that I was going to wait until I finished Chinua Achebe’s Things Fall Apart to read Dan Ariely’s book Predictably Irrational: The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions, but my dad was going to the library today and I couldn’t wait.  However, the library did not have the book so instead I got Ariely’s newest book The Upside of Irrationality: The Unexpected Benefits of Defying Logic.

After reading the introduction to the book, I am really realizing what amazing woman my mom is .  In the book, Ariely discusses the irrationality of human beings and the profundity and pervasiveness of this irrationality. He begins his book by talking about one of the most common reflection of human irrationality: procrastination.  He says that we as humans struggle to overcome procrastination every day.  I was relieved because all this time I thought I was the only one who almost always waits until the last minute to complete tasks. It has been quite painful to overcome this habit.

My mom is quite different from the people Ariely talks about in his book.  I cannot recall a time when she procrastinated.  Every time ask her to do me a favor, she always does it, either that day or for bigger tasks, the next day but only if she absolutely has to wait.  She quit smoking almost 10 years ago after smoking for 20-30 years (which is another habit Ariely said is irrational yet difficult to quit).  She has gotten so good at not smoking that it is hard to believe she ever smoked since she now hates even the smell of cigarettes on a person’s shirt.

My brother bought gym membership for both my mom and my dad.  But out of the two of them, my mom is the only one who goes to the gym religiously. How does she do it? How does my mother conquer natural human irrationality?  Ariely says that most humans prefer short term pleasure that will be detrimental in the long run as opposed to short term pain that will be much more beneficial in the long run. Maybe there are some glitches to Dan Ariely’s study.  Then again, I have not finished reading the book.  I would say that going natural is long term pain that results in even longer term benefits.  Yet many women all over the blog-o-sphere are taking the plunge.  What is this force that is moving them?  Can anyone help me figure this out? I do not remember why I did, but I do know that I was much more disciplined back then than I am now and I did not care about looking good either.  In fact, I thought looking good attracted boys that would waste my time and get me pregnant which I did not want so I took the risk.  Many women are going natural now and looking good while doing it.  I did not know how to do both back then  because there was no online natural hair community at the time (2003).

Two Hours later:

So after my mother got home, I told her about the book The Upside of Irrationality: The Unexpected Benefits of Defying Logic.  I then went on to tell her how amazing she was for fighting procrastination and having the will power to quit smoking and to start exercising her.  I asked her, “How do you do it? What is the force?”

She told me love.  “I love my family and I want to be able to provide for them and to live long so that I can see them prosper.”  That is so sweet.  The Bible is right.  Love is such a strong force.

My mom and me

2 comments July 29, 2011

Irrationality, Rationality and Health

Hello all.

I have gotten a few messages from women who have said that my blog has inspired them either to go natural or to explore their hair growth potential.  Although I try to shame women with relaxers (I too once had one so who am I to judge), these replies have gotten me interested in what inspires people, not just to go natural but to make healthy decisions in general.  What causes people to make unhealthy decision not only when it comes to their hair but also when it comes to their body?  For example, why would someone not monitor their diet and eat rids, McDonald’s, or cake on a daily basis with the knowledge that diet-related diseases such as cancer, heart disease, or stroke run in their family?

Sounds irrational but is very common in our society.  In the vein of hair care, why would someone go to a shop every 6 weeks or so and pay another person quite a bit of money to apply a chemical on their head that can burn through metal and causes cancer?  Again, I am not trying to judge, I can be quite irrational too, but it is quite mind boggling. Dan Ariely explores the irrationality of human beings in his book, Predictably Irrational and argues that humans are always irrational.  After I finish reading Things Fall Apart by the great Nigerian (Igbo) writer Chinua Achebe, I plan to read Dan Ariely’s book.  While I do agree with Ariely that humans can be irrational, my viewers who have cited me as their source of inspiration, have inspired me to think differently.  There is a force that drives individuals to act irrationally but there can also be a stronger force to drive them in the opposite direction to rationality.

It is simple high school physics.  Newton’s first law says that “every body persists in its state of being at rest or of moving uniformly straight forward, except insofar as it is compelled to change its state impressed.”

In other words, everything will state at rest or move with a constant velocity unless acted on by a force especially an unbalanced force.

I believe there are unseen forces that push human beings towards irrational behavior despite the fact that there are also strong (albeit weaker) forces pushing them towards rational behavior.

What is this force?

What is this force? What are the invisible forces that push us towards rational or irrational behavior? What motivates human beings?

Add a comment July 28, 2011

Update: Dreads and Moisturizing

Mr. Marley says, "Let's get together and moisturize."

Hey all. I think this is going to be a short post. Well it has to be because I am about to work out. This is related to a hair tip I gave previously about moisturizing.  So last night I went to meet a friend I have not seen in 5 years.  She was also meeting up with some other friends from high school.  Out of all of us, the guy who came last  had dreads. We will call him Bob. The other guy that was there and my friend kept talking about how long Bob’s hair had gotten, because he had the dreads since he was a kid.   So I was expecting  hair to be down to his behind.  Keep in mind Bob had not gotten there yet.   When he walked in the Truitt’s Chik-Fil-A, I saw that his hair was as long as mine. What? Should be longer since all hair grows 1/2 inch per month and I had not been growing mine for the same length of time he has. He is 23. He’s been growing his hair for 13-16 years. I have been growing mine for 3 years (but growing it  well for only 6 months).

So I asked him, “Do you  trim your dreads?”

He said, “No. Never.”

Then I said, “Oh. They told me you had been growing your hair for your whole life.  I thought it would be longer.”  [Pause.] OMG. Is that rude, ya’ll? It didn’t sound rude at that time, at least not to me. I really had to know. Sorry.

“Oh yeah.  Sometimes when I sit on the couch they just break off.”

“Do you moisturize?”

“Uh. My stylist does.”

I told him, “With Afro-textured hair you must moisturize every single day.”

He said, “Yeah. I might put some afro sheen on it.”

“Oh no. Yeah. A lot of people think that oil moisturizes. It doesn’t. It only controls the moisture.  You have to moisturize the hair with water (or sometimes aloe vera juice) and then put oil on it.  Depending on the humidity, you might put shea butter or cocoa nut oil if it’s humid or jojoba, glycerin, or castor oil if it’s arid or dry.”

Wizzy says "Don't worry, peeps. I moisturize. hehe. Yeah."

OK. Now you ladies (and guys) know I can be an annoying pest. Ah man.  I didn’t want you to find out like this.  Sorry. The Lord is at work on me. Still working on being tactful. But I just wanted to share this story to demonstrate how hair knowledge and moisturizing is really important for maintaining length.  When I was little, my aunt had long dreads.  I asked her why her hair was so long.  She said because she didn’t comb it. So for the longest time, I was under the impression that the only black people who could have long hair, other than mixed people–please don’t blame me for my misconceptions; this is the world I grew up in now—were people with dreads.  What I did not realize is my aunt moisturized her hair.  (In fact, she now says she used to water it like she would water a plant. She has a relaxer now, because she is trying get a job. I will talk of that later.) Now, from my knowledge of hair and this investigation, I know that dreads can break off unnecessarily if not properly cared for (and so can mixed hair which I know from my own experiences.)  Most hair can get long if cared for well unless the person with the hair has some kind of medical condition. There could have been something else going on with his hair, but from our convo, the moisture thing is def an issue. Don’t get me wrong.  His hair was pretty nice. His mom maintained it well and his stylist maintains it well now. It was just not as long as it could be. Just thought I would update you and reinforce that daily moisturizing is highly important.

All the best on your hair journeys and what not. Please email me if you have any questions at oyiboprincess@gmail.com.  I am going to post the swimming bonus soon, but I am waiting to get permission from my professor to use a pic of his daughter.

As a treat for your patience, here is Timaya, among the estimated 1% of people with dreads in Nigeria right now. I believe it is the Yoruba who believe dreadlocks are evil because they represent shrines. However, nowadays, Nigerian celebrities and other entertainers wear them. Here’s the video: 

Disclaimer: I do not know whether Bob Marley did or whether Lil’ Wayne does moisturize daily. I do not know either of them personally and know nothing about their hair regimens. However, my mom had a colleague whose daughter went to school with Lil’ Wayne’s daughter so…there is a connection there, but I still do not know what he does with his hair.

Add a comment July 20, 2011

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